Compiled by Kathleen Ballard, September 2007


Always My Child: A Parents’ Guide to Understanding Your Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered or Questioning Son or Daughter, Kevin Jennings and Pat Shapiro. Fireside Press, 2002.
Filled with real-life stories, scientific research and practical advice, this book emphasizes the importance of family acceptance for a child’s self-esteem and the need to create a safe haven at home for GLBTQ teens, who often feel depressed, isolated, and harassed by peers and society at large. Includes an extensive resource section.

Beyond Acceptance: Parents of Lesbians & Gays Talk About Their Experiences, Carolyn Griffin & Marian Wirth. St. Martin’s Press, 1997.
A ground-breaking book that provides parents the comfort and knowledge they need to accept the gay children and build stronger family relationships. Based on the experiences of other parents, this book lets them know they are not alone and helps them through the emotional stages leading to reconciliation with their children.

Families Like Mine: Children of Gay Parents Tell It Like It Is, Abigail Garner. Harper Collilns, 2004.
Interweaves the author’s personal experiences of growing up with a gay father and straight mother with the stories of other adult children of LGBT parents. Features several stories of children with one or more transgender parents.

The Full Spectrum: a New Generation of Writing About Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Questioning, and Other Identities, David Levithan and Billy Merrell. Knopf Books, 2006.
A collection of original poems, essays, and stories by young adults in their teens and early twenties explores many sexual issues, including coming out, first kisses, break-ups, religion/faith, and friendship.

Free Your Mind: the Book for Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual Youth-and Their Families, Ellen Bass and Kate Kaufman. Harper Books, 1996.
A practical resource guide that helps LGBT youth and their allies understand, accept, and celebrate their sexual orientation; overcome obstacles; and make healthy choices about relationships and sex.
Friends and Family: True Stories of America’s Straight Allies, Dan Woog. Alyson Books, 1999.
A collection of stories of straight allies, from children to high school teachers, and their battle to fight for queer rights.

GLBTQ: the Survival Guide for Queer and Questioning Teens, Kelly Huegel. Free Spirit Publishing, 2003.
Describes the challenges faced by gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgendered teens, offering practical advice, real-life experiences, and accessible resources and support groups.

How It Feels to Have a Gay or Lesbian Parent: a Book by Kids for Kids of All Ages, Judith E. Snow. Harrington Park Press, 2004.
Gives voice to the thoughts, feelings, and experiences of children, adolescents, and young adults who have a gay or lesbian parent. In their own words, they talk openly and candidly about how and when they learned of their parent’s sexual orientation and the effect it had on them—and their families.

Love Makes a Family: Portraits of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Parents and Their Families, Peggy Gillespie. U. of Mass. Press, 1999.
This collection of informal family portraits and interviews with lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) parents and their children shows myriad family configurations: gay and lesbian couples, divorced lesbians co-parenting, single parents, transgendered parents, and stepparents and their children. The book of photo essays complements a four-year-old traveling exhibition that comes in two versions: one for elementary-school students, the other for teenagers and adults.

Mom, Dad, I’m Gay: How Families Negotiate Coming Out, Ritch C. Savin-Williams. American Psychological Association, 2001.
Savin-Williams integrates anecdotes and interview material from 164 youths with empirical data drawn from his own developmental research to emphasize the diversity of experience among gay and lesbian teens. Cornell Univ., New York, NY.

Out of the Ordinary: Essays on Growing Up with Gay, Lesbian, and Transgender Parents, Noelle Howey and Ellen Samuels. Stonewall Inn, 2000.
A truly unique collection of essays by the grown children of lesbian, gay, and transgender parents. Ranging from humorous to poignant, the essays touch on some of the most important and complicated issues facing them: dealing with a parent’s sexuality while developing an identity of one’s own; overcoming homophobia at school and at family or social gatherings; and defining the modern family. Includes a resource guide of organizations that offer support for the hundreds of thousands of gay, lesbian, and transgender parents and their children.

Straight Parents, Gay Children: Keeping Families Together, Robert A. Bernstein. Thunder’s Mouth Press, 2003.
Bernstein’s moving account of how he came to terms with his daughter’s homosexuality and how the experience has enriched his life. The book discusses the myths surrounding homosexuality, accepting the news, parents who speak out, public figures who have gay children, and more.

What If Someone I Know Is Gay? Answers to Questions About Gay and Lesbian People, Eric Marcus. Simon Pulse, 2007.
No-nonsense answers for kids who have questions about gay people, including: “Does a person just decide to become gay?” and “Does God love gay people?”


Both My Moms’ Name Are Judy.
A short film of kids talking about LGBT families and their experiences in school. All ages. 1994, 10 min.
Dealing with Difference: Opening Dialogue about Lesbian, Gay and Straight Issues, produced by Human Relations Media & GLSEN.
This video combines dramatizations of anti-LGBT harassment in school with panel discussions amongst teens about their experiences. Comes with a teacher’s guide.

In Other Words, produced by the National Film Board of Canada and directed by Jan Padgett.
This film uses slang, media images and dictionary definitions to examine how language determines our attitudes towards others; young LGBT people speak about their fears, concerns, anger and pain.

It’s Elementary: Talking about Gay Issues in School
Teachers, parents, and students talk about what they think and know about gays and what they are capable of learning. Includes LGBT family subject matter. Ages 5 and up. 1995, 78 min.

Just Call Me Kade, produced by Sam Zolten.
This film documents the journey and transition of Kade Farlow Collins, a 16-year-old FTM (female to male transgender person) and his family over two years.

Love Makes a Family
Meet a lesbian single mother who shares parenting with the gay father of her son; a lesbian couple who care for one’s children by a previous marriage; a gay male couple with two adopted sons; a clinical psychologist and a therapist who work with gay families and their children. 1991.

No Dumb Questions, by Melissa Regan
This documentary follows three young girls’ conversations about gender and acceptance when they learn that Uncle Bill will soon be Aunt Barbara.

Oliver Button is a Star, produced by Dan Hunt.
Based on Tomie de Paola’s classic children’s book, this film combines animation, celebrity childhood stories, interviews and choral music in a story about a boy who is ridiculed for being interested in singing and dancing rather than more “boyish” pursuits.

Out of the Past, by Jeff Dupre.
The history-making experience of a Utah student battling to form a gay-straight alliance in her public school serves as a modern counterpoint to the history of a Human Rights movement. The struggles and triumphs of Bayard Rustin, Barbara Gittings, and other activists are also profiled in this powerful film.

Straight From the Heart
Academy Nominee film contains stories of straight parents’ journeys to a new understanding of their LGB children. 1994, 25 min.

Trevor, a Film by Peggy Rajski; presented by Ellen Degeneres.
An Academy Award-winning film. Told narratively as diary entries, the film follows 13-year-old Trevor, who is ostracized for being gay and ultimately attempts suicide until a supportive acquaintance inspires Trevor to live.

Youth OUTLoud!: Addressing Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Youth Issues in Our Schools, by Sun & Moon Vision Productions.
This documentary chronicles the stories of several LGBT youth in high school, highlighting the surge of youth activism that initiates change from local school district policies to state and federal laws.


Committee for Children
The Committee for Children’s mission is to promote the safety, well-being, and social development of children. A bullying prevention program is a research-based, school-wide approach to help foster a safe, caring, and respectful school environment.
GLSEN: Gay Lesbian and Straight Education Network
GLSEN is a national education organization working to ensure safe schools for ALL students, regardless of sexual orientation and gender identity.

National Youth Advocacy Coalition
A social justice organization that advocates for and with young people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or questioning (LGBTQ) in an effort to end discrimination against these youth and to ensure their physical and emotional-well being.

Out Proud: The National Coalition for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgender Youth
Offers a wide range of resources for youth and educators, including a School Resources Library that provides a range of tools to help make schools safe and supportive.

PFLAG: Parents Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
A national support, education and advocacy organization for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered (GLBT) people, their families, friends and allies.

Safe Schools Coalition
An international public-private partnership in support of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender youth is to help schools – at home and all over the world – become safe places where every family can belong, where every educator can teach, and where every child can learn, regardless of gender identity or sexual orientation.


“101 Tools for Tolerance: Simple Ideas for Promoting Equity and Diversity.” A Web Project of the Southern Poverty Law Center.

“Close the Book on Hate.” A Joint Campaign of the Anti-Defamation League and Barnes & Noble to Break the Cycle of Hate Through Reading.

“If You are Concerned about Your Child’s Gender Behaviors.” A guide for parents from the Outreach Program for Children with Gender-Variant Behaviors and their Families. Children’s National Medical Center, 2003.

“Resource Guide to Coming Out.” For gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Americans, 2006. Human Rights Campaign.

“What Does Gay Mean?” How to Talk with Kids about Sexual Orientation and Prejudice, Lynn Ponton, National Mental Health Association, 2002.


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